I don't know how to explain this because the topic is a bit confusing. However, I will try to give you an idea for you to understand where I want to go from here. My grandpa' used to say that in order to achieve something, your mind needs to be ready for it. He said that principle applies to every single aspect of life: love, money, family, dating, etc... According to his beliefs, people that fail are failing because they are not "programmed" to have success in whatever it is they're failing. For example, if you are failing finding any women to date, it is because your mind is not programmed to have success with women. This sounds crazy right? But, I have personally reached the conclusion that my grandpa' was right. The only thing that determines your success is "HOW BAD YOU WANT IT". In other words, does your mind want it? If you really wanted to be rich, wouldn't you give all you've got to be rich? Some people say "I want to be rich", but they don't work for it. Most of the time, these people that say "I want to be rich", don't really feel it. They just know that being rich will help, but they don't realize how it could change their lives. Then, desire comes in... I will stop typing because if I keep on going, you know it will be a very long post. So, I would like to know what you guys think about this belief or theory or whatever you think it is.